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中国的好孩子,就是被你们这些乱开玩笑的大人调侃坏的! – Chinese boy was bad by these jokes make fun of you!

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这两天,郭德纲又上热搜了。


21号晚上,在某视频网站盛典上,演员沙溢和胡可的儿子安吉获得了“年度敲萌宝贝”奖项。


作为颁奖嘉宾的郭德纲跟安吉开起了玩笑。


只是这玩笑,真让人尴尬。




安吉一上场,郭德纲跟上一句:我怎么看安吉怎么像我和胡可的孩子。”


沙溢听了一愣,只好用玩笑化解:“太不像话了郭老师,不能这样,都说小鱼儿像岳云鹏,安吉再像你,我就没法活了。”


郭德纲这样回答:“没事,这说明你们家人好客。”



颁奖环节,郭德纲错颁了应该沙溢给颁的奖时,再一次开这种伦理玩笑:“我以为是亲爸爸给颁。” 还指着沙溢说:“这个也叫爸爸。”


之后,何炅问安吉听没听过德云社,郭德纲再次替安吉回答:“这是我爸爸的单位。”


对一个年仅5岁的孩子三番五次说这样的话,真的过分了。




有人说:孩子嘛,不懂事,开个玩笑而已。但安吉真的听不懂吗?


刚一上台,他特别高兴,还在舞台上翻起了跟头。




但这一番“玩笑”之后,他已经不太想说话了。




哪怕是最不经世事的小孩子,也可以凭借着本能,分辨出哪些是善良,哪些是恶意。


何况,安吉心思如此细腻。


沙溢的微博上有一条关于儿子的状态:




妈妈胡可知道他心思重,曾经坐了一夜车去看他,嘴上却轻描淡写:“没事,妈妈来看你是想你了,见到你很高兴,你不必介意我是怎么来的。她怕安吉想太多。




这么敏感的孩子,对别人践踏自己心目中爸爸妈妈的形象,怎么会不难过呢?


很多人指责郭德纲,但这不只是他一个人的问题。


他不过代表了我们童年时期,那些把嘴欠当玩笑,把无礼当乐趣,把口无遮拦当直率、不懂得尊重孩子的“坏”大人而已。


我们大部分人,都是在这样的环境中长大的:


总有叔叔递给你几块钱:叫爸爸,这钱就给你。


总有一年见一次面的亲戚“逗”你:你不是亲生的。你妈妈生了小弟弟就不要你了。如果你爸妈离婚,你选择跟谁过?


也总有大人故意拿走你的玩具,拿你很久之前的糗事当笑料,或者笑话你身体上哪怕最细微的缺陷,然后在你的哭声里开怀大笑。




为什么没有人想过,一个孩子,听到这么坚硬的话,会有多难过呢?


利用他们无条件的信任,拿他们眼里至关重要的事情开玩笑,享受把小孩子的情绪玩弄于股掌之中的快感,这不是玩笑,这是戏弄。


“我逗他玩儿呢!”


一个“逗”字,掩盖了太多“坏”大人对我们做的残忍的事。




因为是“逗”,你哭,就是太娇气;你大声反驳,就是脾气不好,不懂事;你不理他,他越变本加厉。


“哟哟,开个玩笑,这孩子至于吗?”


你看,允许他坏,不许你恼。可是,只有被开玩笑的人觉得好笑,那才叫玩笑。




更可怕的,是一旁的爸妈也觉得这没什么。


或者碍于情面,不便翻脸,只好硬挤出微笑,转身斥责哭闹的你不懂事。


无端受到戏弄,已是莫大委屈,现在连最信任的人也站在对立面横加指责,没有人想到,要去尊重这个孩子。




这个世界上,暴力有很多种,语言暴力对人影响最长久。


童年时期孤独的孩子,长大后大多数是不安全型人格:


无法完全信任别人;

总是很独立,不敢完全依赖一个人;

不习惯和别人过于亲密;

自己咬牙做到的事从不开口寻求帮助,怕被拒绝;

在喜欢的人面前,第一反应不是大胆追求,而是自卑;

很少表达自己的真实想法,总是伪装成好脾气的人;

......


如果你也是这个样子,多心疼自己。这不是你的错,你只是在很小的时候,就没得到足够的尊重。




很多成年人身上的问题,其实都是童年时期的隐患。大人一句“无意”的玩笑捉弄,很可能给孩子留下挥之不去的阴影,毁掉整个童年。


怕就怕,乱开玩笑的大人不懂。


他们不懂,刻薄和幽默是两码事;口无遮拦和坦率是两码事;没有教养和随性是两码事;轻重不分和耿直是两码事。


他们也不懂,身为成年人,要用成熟的言行为孩子做出健康的引导和规范,而不是以年长为特权,肆意戏弄,消耗一个孩子最干净的真诚。


以后再遇到自以为是的大人用过分的玩笑消遣孩子时,请让他们闭嘴!这不是幽默,这是伤害,这是没教养。


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These two days, Guo degang and heat found on the.


21st evening, in a ceremony on a video website, actor son of Yi Sha and Hu may Angie won the "knocking MoE baby of the year" award.


As Guo of the presenters to play a joke on Angie.


Was this joke, really embarrassing.




Angie got out on, Guo degang as the title line: "How do I look at Angie like my child and Hu may. ”


Yi Sha was one, had to use a joke to defuse: "shame to Miss Guo, no, said the little fish like Yue Yunpeng, Angie again like you, I have no way to live. ”


Guo replied: "no, it means your family hospitality. ”



Presentation link, Guo degang wrongly Sha Yi was awarded the prize, this ethical joke again: "I thought it was the fathers given. "Yi Sha said:" this is called dad. ”


Zhihou, he jiong have asked Angie heard a Comedy Club, Guo degang, again on behalf of Angie replied: "this is my father's unit. ”


On a 5-year-olds repeatedly said so, really far.




Someone said: child, doesn't know any better, it's a joke. But Angie really don't understand?


Just came to power, he is particularly pleased, also turned up on the stage down.




But it's a "joke", he had not wanted to talk.




Even the most innocent children without a vote or by virtue of his natural, distinguish between what is good and what is bad.


What's more, Angie is so delicate.


Yi Sha's micro-blog has an article on his son's status:




Mother Hu may know what he's thinking about, and once took a night train to look at him, mouth is an understatement: "it's okay, MOM you will want you, it's so good to see you, you don't mind if I come from. "She was afraid of Anji thought too much.




Such a sensitive child, and trample their own MOM and Dad's image in the eyes of others, why not sad?


Many people blamed Guo degang, but it's not just one person's problem.


He represents our early childhood, who owes the mouth as a joke, when fun rude, forthright and outspoken when don't respect children's "bad".


Most of us, have grown up in this environment:


Always some Uncle gave you a few bucks: dad, this money is for you.


There is always one year Wu's relatives "tease" you: you do not own. Your mother gave birth to little brother, don't you. If your parents are divorced, who you choose?


There is always an adult deliberately take your toys, take you for a long time before the mishap when a joke or laugh at even the slightest defects in your body, then you cry laughing.




Why has no one thought that a child, hear what so hard, how sad?


Using their unconditional trust, had laughed about the things that matter in their eyes, enjoy the emotions of children playing in the hands of pleasure, it's not a joke, it's teasing.


"I got him to play it! ”


A "funny" Word, hides too much "bad" cruel things adults do to us.




Because it is a "tease" you cry, is too fragile; you counter, is bad-tempered, not sensible you ignore him, he even further.


"Yo Yo, a joke, did this child? ”


You see, allowing him to bad, you are not angry. However, only the people who think it's funny joke, that's a joke.




Even more frightening, is one side of the parents think it's OK.


Or due to the feelings, not turn but hard squeeze smiled, turned and rebuked the crying you don't know any better.


Gratuitous joke, has been a great injustice, now, even the most trusted person in the opposition blame no one thought, to respect for the child.




In this world, there are many kinds of violence, language and violence on people's day.


Lonely child childhood, grew up mostly without security type:


Unable to fully trust in others;

Always very independent, not entirely dependent on one person;

Not used and being too close;

Your teeth do not even ask for help, fear of being rejected;

In front of loved ones, the first reaction is not a bold pursuit, but inferior;

Rarely express your mind, always disguised as a good natured person;

......


If you are also like this, love yourself. It's not your fault, you are just at a very young age, they did not get enough respect.




Many adult problems are actually childhood problems. Adult sentence "accidentally" trick trick, may leave children lingering in the shadows, the destruction of entire childhood.


Afraid of fear, random jokes adults do not understand.


They don't know, caustic and humor is one thing; outspoken and Frank are two different things without corrections and sex are two different things; do not weigh the points and Frank are two different things.


They did not understand it, as an adult, using sophisticated words and deeds as the child health guide and regulate, rather than older, privileged, wanton tease, consuming a child most clean in good faith.


Later encountered bad joke fun children for self-righteous adults, please shut them up! This is not humorous, this hurt, this is rude.

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